We like to believe we help.

That we’re supporting.

Guiding.

Doing what’s best.

But if you look closer—

many times, it’s not about them.

It’s about us.

About the discomfort we feel.

The tension we don’t want to sit with.

The situation we don’t know how to handle.

So we try to change it.

We try to change them.

Not always in obvious ways.

Sometimes it looks like advice.

Like concern.

Like wanting the best.

But underneath—

there’s a need.

For things to be different.

For things to be easier.

For things to stop affecting us.

And instead of facing what that brings up…

we act.

We intervene.

We push.

We try to “help”.

But help that is not asked for…

is rarely about the other person.

It’s about avoiding something in ourselves.

So the question is not

whether your intention is good.

It’s this:

Are you really supporting someone—

or trying to change them

so you don’t have to face

what this situation is showing you?

𝘔𝘶𝘴𝘪𝘤: 𝘈 𝘣𝘦𝘢𝘶𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘶𝘭 𝘮𝘦𝘭𝘰𝘥𝘺 𝘤𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘮𝘦 𝘣𝘺 𝘍𝘭𝘰𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘪𝘢 𝘔𝘢𝘤𝘤𝘩𝘪𝘢𝘳𝘰𝘭𝘢